Personal - #501 - #04 – I’m at a loss as to…..“What to expect now from, what I believe, is a true friend?”

Is it “my” fault?
Do I expect something that isn’t there?
What told me that this was a “true” friend?

Wouldn’t it be nice if all our expectations were met?
Anything we believe would, indeed, happen…. Life could be so simple!
But I’m afraid, life is truly not so simple!

We cannot avoid investigating our thoughts and beliefs. We cannot merely “believe”! There is a great gap between what we may believe and what the real life facts are. We can imbue characteristics in people who are next to us that are, truly, not there! What a disappointment!!
We build ourselves up to believe what we want to believe. Then it happens! We are destroyed! Our beliefs are betrayed. It never occurs to us that our “belief” was never, in fact, there.

It seems that we do not spend enough time considering the basis of our “beliefs”. We simply want to believe!

Do we diminish our good feelings of trust if we “consider” our beliefs? On the contrary, the more we check the more positive we may become. And if were wrong? …. Just look in the mirror at somebody who simply made a mistake. After all we’re not machine perfect! It’s just a simple, human mistake. A person does not have to “fall apart” over a simple human mistake.

But if you don’t ever “check” … or “consider” … you may be suddenly surprised at the sudden reality that your “true friend” never was “your true friend”! “Considering” and “checking” from time to time can reinforce your “good” feelings and certainly diminish the effects of sudden disappointments.

By the way, what you think is terribly important today may not be so terribly important tomorrow. The characteristics you felt were very important may be of different “value” today!

Now … is this a “true” friend, or, just a friend? Do I have the same “ value” of our friendship today?

How many times in your life would you believe the “value” of a “friendship” changed? It’s not terrible if you thought about it, instead of taking things for granted. Some relationships grow more “valuable” the more you know. Some relationships grow “less important” the more you know. Either way, if you, at least, “consider”, you’ll be less surprised and more comfortable.


After all … “What’s the Successful Alternative?”