Definition - #301 - #20 - Everyone is different

Each person has his “logic”. What is “logical” to one person may not be “logical” to another!
Each person has his “reason”. What is “reasonable” to one person may not be “reasonable” to another!
Each person has his “ideas of what is “right”. What is “right” to one person may not be “right” to another!

So how do you live with this?

You merely accept the fact that people have different ways to view the same thing.
If you once figure this “disparity” thing out, then you can live forever with this “disparity”.
This “disparity” is your key to a quiet stomach!
No longer will you be frustrated at not being able to “do” something about “this disparity”!

When you consider to whom you wish to exchange views, make sure the other person (or group) is “capable” or even “wants to” exchange views.
What’s the use of giving your ideas to a party that does not wish to hear your views but merely wishes to “argue”. It’s a total waste of time!
To “exchange” incorporates the idea that “they” will consider. They may even question your ideas. They are at least trying to find out what you have to say. They are at least trying to “understand” your point of view.

You, on the other hand, are not trying to get your views accepted, just “considered”.
You value their questions. You try to understand their “understanding” of what you are attempting to communicate. In the same process, they may wish to communicate their “point of view. You, also, must be able to question and attempt to “understand” their “points of view”. But “to argue”, to attempt to force a change in the other’s “point of view” is useless.
If the “other party” or “you, yourself” changes a “point of view”, it is a result of hearing, of considering, and evaluating new information. Nothing more!!! It is not because you are “forced”, not because you are forced, it is because you “choose” to accept new information!

Remember, EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!

What IS a waste of time, a “stomach ache”; is to try to have a useful communication with a party that does not want to hear anything but it’s own point of view!! …..Ugh!!!
Try to choose a party that is capable of, or, desirous of an “exchange” of views.

“Eliminate” those that just wish to “argue” or just wish to state their present opinions!

Don’t bother to try the impossible!!
Use your efforts in a more useful way!
Try to eliminate “stomach aches”!

You’ll LIVE BETTER!!!
(By the way, this is NOT “opting out”! This is not hiding from “so-called reality”. This is just “choosing better”.)

(Also, if you don’t know to whom you are about to try to communicate, you are at fault!
You deserve the inevitable “stomach ache”!!)