(I can tell if your “deficiency flag” is out of the box and going up the pole …in a milli-second!!!)
Most people, when they don’t know something, feel “deficient”.
When they feel “deficient” they become “insecure”.
When they become “insecure” they usually become aggressive, loud, defensive, tell polish jokes, change the subject or go answer the phone!
It is so apparent that they feel “deficient”.
Their “deficiency flag” is out of the box going up the pole!!
All because they don’t know something……
Suppose somebody gave you a flashlight and pointed to the door of a big closet. You turned the light on and opened the door. You peered in and saw something you would recognize. You saw something that was of no interest to you. You, also, saw something you may know nothing about but was of interest.
In NO case did you recognize everything in the closet. In fact, there were many things that were of “no” interest at all to you!
Did you feel insecure because there were things of NO interest? Did you feel insecure because you didn’t know everything in the closet?
WELL, why in heavens name do you expect to know “everything”?
Why do you need to feel insecure or “deficient” if you have to ask?
Why do you become “defensive”? After all, isn’t it true that after you have defended yourself, the situation remains the same?? What a waste of time and effort!!!
Why should your “deficiency flag” go up the pole when you don’t know something? What’s so terrible about asking a good question? There’s a huge closet out there. No one knows everything!!
Learning how to ask a good, clear, meaningful question is almost the same as getting an answer. In fact, many times a good question brings out a better answer. There is certainly no feeling of insecurity that comes with a good question. You are NOT deficient when you ask!!
Put away the “deficiency flag”!! It’s less baggage for you to carry!!
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